Yes, that's a pretty common
problem - faulty overhead touch module. It's been debated for quite some time on various forums, including this one. It is solved at the
dealership by replacing the entire top-console. Mine is also dead for about a month now; it could have been dead long before, but I don't use those lights too often.
In my case they still work on auto-mode (so lights turn on when opening the car doors), but none of the buttons work and I can't turn on/off the lights by touch. The
problem always goes away after 20-30 minutes of driving, but they never work right after you start the car.
The module failure after the software update is a simple coincidence - normally there's no correlation.