I don't see anything there to suggest that, certainly not the main relay! It's simply the second part of the coolant temp code, and that's a very common code when the coolant sensor starts to fail internally. I'd say there is a 95% it's the sensor itself, or a 5% chance its the wiring on the connector.
01039 - Coolant Temperature Sensor (G2)
30-10 - Open or Short to Plus - Intermittent
If it was the main relay you would lose all electrical power, including the lights on the dash. The OP stated that he had oil pressure light and beeping, and that the only thing that dropped out was the tacho. The coolant temp sensor is two parralel thermistors, and the ECU just measures the resistance across them the same as a multimeter would. The 'ground' side of the circuit is via the ECU, not a main block ground.
The OP's
problem is almost certainly his crank sensor or crank sensor wiring at the plug (the cutting out issue) and likely his EGT sensor causing the boost limit. The coolant temp sensor can be ignored until he sorts the other two.