Ok, i won!
Mass hardcore sanding of wheel and one wheel went on straight away, no messing, flush to hub so confidence back! Had to be the one corner i hadnt tried before!!
3 other wheels needed winding on with the nuts so was quite nervous, but tightening in small hits sequentially around the 5 bolts and they pulled into the hub nice and tight.
Strangely though the 2 wheels with spigot rings weren't anywhere near to going on the hub so the rings got knocked out and on they went! Odd that they were on them in the first place as they arent needed on the wheel to close any gap around the hub. They fit tight.
It rained after wheel 1 went on so got I wet but did so with a semi smile! And then the light faded!! lol
Happy days. Ill post pics up to show what the crap was all about (probably nowt special to most but im stoked with it !) once shes washed! Clean weels & filthy car + dark - poo pics!!
Thanks for all the input guys, espec. you Lee, Cheers bud! You have been most helpful and supportive!