If all else fails check under the driver seat and see if you have the bluetooth module down there...
 
So how do you know you haven't got bluetooth? Have you tried it with more than one phone?
 
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this is what i have in my car
 
Have you tried putting your ignition on and searching for blutooth devices with your phone ? It should see the car one.
 
The Tocco Lite should work with the B/T in the car but not fully, The phone book will not be uploaded.

All you do is turn the key to pos 2 and then search for B/T devices with your phone.