No idea - nearly 3 weeks in, donor car, new parts and plenty of contact with Spain and lots of head scratching.
There was clearly a fault somewhere with it refusing to recognise a Primary User.  All that is done now and I'm happy as I can be for the time being.
Went to dealer this morning and they linked the Phone App to the car and everything works. The Dealership location is an issue with OTA, they have 2 large warehouse stores either side and the Faraday Effect wipes out the OTA data.  For instance today, after the App and car joined in perfect harmony, the app was still showing all the faults that occurred and missing the vehicle status, yet the dashboard was clear.  I moved to the super market car park opposite side of the road and the faults left the app before I had parked up and by the time I came out with my lunch the vehicle status was working. Since then dealer has done the remote control settings and I have now what I should have had 6 months ago and it only cost one car hire rental charge. Hopefully my next visit will be for a oil service and I will have many years driving, before I rely on my daughter to take me shopping!
Can I just thank you for all your 
help on this matter and if you are in the same situation - it can be done, just do it under warranty!